Sunday, June 07, 2009
yesterday was thomas's wedding...
it is the first wedding i've attended of my fren's...
n it feels strange somehow.. watching him walk down the aisle with his newly wedded wife..
suddenly, it feels like a different world out there..
the pastor who said a few words before the newly weds were wedded, said some things tt are worth pondering over.
1. communication is impt, but there are 3 different aspects to communication: (i can't rem the first one), communicate intimately, n communicate encouragingly.
u don't just tell ur other half wad had gone on during ur day. it shouldn't be a commentary, but it should allow ur other half to know u better. let him/her know wad made u happy today, n wad made u unhappy today. tt's intimate communication.
to communicate encouragingly, it means tt u dun give names to ur other half. when u intro ur wife/hubby to ur frens, dun intro him/her as "ur maid". both parties have to work hard to keep the marriage going, n no one would feel worthy if he/she is labelled as "the maid".
2. keep ur marriage fresh, by going dating. work is always there, n saying tt u have "no time" is not a gd excuse not to spend time with ur other half.
3. no one is perfect. not even u. when u're not perfect, dun expect ur other half to be. if he/she make mistakes, just like u do too, forgive him/her before the day is over. cold war isn't going to help the situation. both would lose out.
the wedding was great. thomas was his usual self, n i can see tt he's really happy. as he put it, he was grinning so hard, his cheeks are aching. i'm happy for him.
will put up the photos when i have them...
11:33 AM
